Initiation is the bottom line of masculinity. It means taking the lead. The lead in providing, protecting, mentoring, and befriending. It means caring for and developing our mates, out children, and ourselves. It means taking the lead in apologizing. The lead in seeking forgiveness.
Charismatic but substantive
People, events, evil schemes, disasters, catastrophes can take things away from you. Things on the outside. But no one can ever take away what’s on the inside-heart, soul, character. A man can throw it away. But no one can ever take it.
Job demonstrated something longer and stronger than patience. Shinning out of his life through the dark horror of grief and loss is what I believe to be man’s greatest strength. His highest attribute. Call it patience if you life. I call it staying power.
Remaining. Persevering. Holding fast standing firm. That’s what a man does. That’s what a man is.
“A man with the courage of faithfulness.” Robin Hardy
Job sourced his masculinity and personhood in who he was, alone and naked before God. And that makes a man out of you.
“My concern is if they don’t feel cared about, then they cant ever care about anyone else, let alone themselves. We may be creating a large number of children who are emotional misfits.” David Elkind
The calling of every man is to offer stability to a world full of chaos.
The toxin of comparison has been utterly neutralized and washed away by the sacred anti-toxin of a promise
“Lord, who can abide in your tent” “He who walks with integrity….and speaks truth in his heart. …he who swears to his own hurt, and does not change”
“Criticism and stress and troubles aren’t something exclusive to ministry, Stu they’re life” Pastor Williams
“The only reason Jesus became a man was to be man-handled.” Orville
He knows the way with me; when has tried me, I shall come forth as gold.
“Lord help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that You and I cant handle together.”
That’s why real men don’t run. Real men stay and stay and stay.
Isnt it funny how the less mature feel constrained to act “tough”, while the truly mature act gently?
No one knows the heat of a man like the man himself
The great apostle suggests that the heat of his ministry was the ministry of his heart-tender, gentle, fond, affectionate.
A real man must not be afraid to tell you who he is deep down inside.
But I am no less a man under authority, a man under orders, And if the Lord God has allowed to the unspeakable privilege of being a husband and a father, so are you.
“I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.” 1st Corinthians 11:3
Because of men who demand submission from their wives but in turn submit themselves to no one, including God.
We cannot blame women for being frustrated because they fear the injustice of being under headship that itself is not accountable.
Some men draw a big line in the sand and say, “I aint accountable to nobody, but I am the boss of you.” That is neither right nor biblical. Yes, God has given men a certain amount of authority. But they re first and foremost men under authority. We always want to quote the verse that says, “The man is the head of a woman” But we conveniently forget the first part of the verse that says. “Christ is the head of every man!” No exceptions. That’s me and you.
Before one can ever lead, he must learn to follow.